Going Pro

We all aspire to something. Even the seemingly mundane life is anything but. The fact that we’re here, breathing in and out, thinking thoughts, performing tasks with hands that have opposable thumbs, is anything but mundane.

We are miraculous beings, spirits having a human experience. I’m here to attest to that. I’ve been to the other side. I know.

And I’m filled with gratitude daily for the chance to breathe in and out, to hum and sing to the best of my ability, and to share my story with anyone who is interested in listening.

I know I ramble in these posts, but bear with me. I am going somewhere, even if the course is circuitous.

Today is the first day of April. A day for foolishness, if that’s your thing.

For me, it’s the day I turned professional. I am a professional writer.

Being professional isn’t about getting paid, although that would be nice and maybe is the ultimate goal.

Being professional is a state of mind and a state of being. It’s about having goals and committing to achieving those goals.

In that vein, I’m committing to having a completed manuscript of my memoir be the end of the year. Aside from any freelance work I obtain, and aside from this blog, the memoir is going to consume my focus.

So there’s no fooling on April Fools Day. At least not for me. I’m entering into a contract with myself to be ready to shop my manuscript in 2024. It will give me something worthy to distract me from the fiasco of the upcoming political cycle.

It’s Saturday night. Time for me to find a movie to watch.

Figuring It Out

I am sitting at my desk with the intention of making my blog public as soon as possible. I can write like there’s no tomorrow. Where I run into trouble is on the technical side of things.

For instance, it is March 22, 2023. That’s not what the date on this article shows, and I don’t know how to change it. I’m sure it’s something simple. I’ll figure it out. All of this is a learning curve.

I have my windows open, and there is a cool breeze caressing my legs. I am garbed in by normal work uniform: champion gym shorts and a Henley, two of the three buttons buttoned. There was a time I would’ve left all of the buttons unbuttoned, but that was before the accident. Before my body was broken and reassembled as best as the surgeons were able to put me back together.

I don’t really want to talk too much about the accident and the fact that I am differently – abled. These are facts of my everyday life, and I don’t want them to define me. With the help of technology and a little assistance from my CNA, Susie, who is generously provided through my VA benefits, I can live a normal and independent life.

And. I. Love. It!

It’s fucking awesome.

What is even more fucking awesome is the gratitude that fills my heart whenever I think of all that it has taken to get me to this point in my life: living a writer’s life in the mountains of Western North Carolina.

I have yet to truly explore this area. I own that. It’s by own fault that I haven’t gotten out more. I admit that my disability has inhibited me. It’s not just about the physical limitations, it’s also the psychological limitations that I am working to change.

I’m always embarrassed.… That’s not right. I am sometimes embarrassed by my disability. I feel like people are staring at me even when there’s no one around. Are they watching me from the windows of their apartments? What about a passing car? It’s all in my head. I know that’s true, and I expect it will simply take some time for me to get past that.

I have already completed a substantial entry in my journal as well as worked on the novel that I’m currently writing. First drafts are joy. I don’t have to give a crap when I’m writing the first draft. It’s a matter of getting the words out there, shaping the idea, learning about the characters. It’s one of the most freeing feelings I know, to work on a first draft. And just get the damn thing done

I already have a recipe printed out for my CNA to help me make: lentil and potato soup. No mushrooms this time. I do love lentils, but I need to branch out with five recipes eventually.

Something else that has been on my mind is my reading, or lack thereof. I haven’t read much in the past couple days. I set out with the intention of reading but get sidetracked by things like watching a movie or binging on Better Call Saul. Reading always comes last during the day when it should have roughly the same priority as my writing.

I will change this. I will set out daily reading goals, and rearrange my schedule so that reading comes sooner rather than later. And speaking of…

It is time to get to the reading.

Another Day …

I’m sitting here at my CIC, my Command Information Center …

And I’m at a loss. Ever get that way? When you know, or at least think, you should be doing something, but you’re at a loss what that should be?

That’s me today, sitting here at my workstation, trying to think of anything I deem worthy to share with the public. The joke is that I write this as though I have an audience, and maybe I will, but my audience right now is an imaginary audience of one. I have in mind who that person is, but that is a secret I’ll keep. Maybe not until death, but at least until I’m old. Very old. And I intend to live a good, long life, even if my accident may have shaved a few years off my life expectancy. So what if I live into my 90s instead of my 100s? That’s still a good run.

And here I was, thinking I had nothing to say. It just goes to show yo never can tell …

This is an average Tuesday for me. I slept well and, for once, had no dreams that I could remember. Now that the weather here is more spring-like, my arm is complaining less. It was almost intolerable heading into the weekend. A drop in barometric pressure spells doom for my neuropathic pain.

I can’t speak for all chronic pain sufferers, but the few I know have corroborated my experience. Chronic pain is, well, a pain. As a writer, I’m never at a loss for how to describe my pain: sometimes it burns like the worst sunburn ever, sometimes it jabs me like an inoculation shot when I least expect it, and in parts of my arm that aren’t meant for a shot; other times it feels like my forearm is in a vice lined with spikes, and sometimes if feels like a combination of all of those.

Yeah, not fun.

I’ve learned that my pain is affected by inflammation. I can’t do much about the weather other than ride it out. I can limit inflammation, though. Diet, hydration, and even adequate sleep all have their roles to play.

I’m working on diet, going primarily plant-based, with plenty of whole-food plant based recipes that are naturally inflammatory. Don’t ask me what they are just yet, because I don’t know. What I do know is that I have several cookbooks that are geared towards things like reducing inflammation as well as preventing cancer. Funny how those two things are closely linked, and modern medicine is finally figuring that out.

So I’m excited for that! I’ll keep you apprised on how that pans out for me. I’m hopeful, because this pain is a bitch!

Navigating

This is my first post!

Momentous, I know; I’ve wanted to start getting my voice out into the blogosphere for longer than I’ll admit.

Procrastination can be an artform, y’know.

Regardless, here I am, for better or worse, rich or poor ( poor = status quo ), until death parts me from this body.

Again. Parts me again, but more on that in a few.

I’m here to grace you, my dear reader, with the words that represent the nature of my being at any given moment. Think about it: we have the power of written language. It’s a shame that power, whether read or written, isn’t tapped more often by more people. Maybe the world wouldn’t be in the mess it is now …

I’ll refrain from waxing catastrophic, at least for now. And it’s not only about what the written word can do for a person. Love plays a major role, too. In fact, one could argue that love, unconditional and universal, is the ultimate answer. The ultimate answer and power that can pull us up by the bootstraps out of this devisive, toxic, ream of absolutes and extremes that threaten to undermine centuries of progress.

So about this blog. It’s my personal platform to do what I do best: share thoughts and experiences and let the reader - you - take from these words what you will. If you get nothing from reading my words, so be it. But then I ask, why the fuck are you still reading?

Hey, it’s a fair question. If you’re here to find something to criticize, go away. The world has enough critics.

If you’re here out of curiosity, to learn something about me and what I’m learning from life …

And death …

Then welcome! Read on.

Yes, I said death. I died in a severe, freak, car accident. Just ask Mike, one of the first responders who pulled me from the mangled twists of metal that had once been my car. He later told me, after a few months of what would turn out to be a year of residential rehabilitation, that I had no heartbeat when they extricated me. Oh, and I wasn't breathing either – I had to cut a hole in my larynx so that I could breathe through my throat. If you don't believe me, I have the scars to show it.

Thank the powers that there are defibrillators! They shocked my heart back to a stable rhythm and carted me to the nearest emergency room.

It was at the ER that the doctor told my then-girlfriend that family should be contacted, that I may nor survive the day.

But survive I did, I survived the day. I survived a tracheotomy, being intubated and placed on a ventilator, chest tubes …

It’s easier just to tell you I survived 10 surgeries and a year of physical rehabilitation.

What I survived isn’t as important as it is to express that I survived when it wasn’t expected that I would.

Yet here I am writing this post, you lucky reader!

I have so much to tell you. So many observations and lessons learned. It’s enough to fill a book … and it probably will fill a book, if not more than one. That’s for another day and a separate project. This blog is for my daily thoughts … ramblings sometimes. never is it for creative nonfiction.

I do reserve the right to include excerpts of these posts in said nonfiction as the narrative requires.

Where was I?

Right! I was talking about surviving my accident and what it took for me to get where I am today. Except I didn’t talk much yet about what it took for me to get to a place of independence again.

That’s enough for now …